The Secret to a Long and Happy Marriage
When people find out that my wife and I have been married 46 years, they ask "What is the secret to such a long and happy marriage?" We are like, "Happy? Why ask us?" No, seriously, my daughter happens to be getting married in September, and I think I will share at the wedding what is the secret of a long and happy marriage--which has set me to thinking, "Well, what IS the secret?"
For me the secret to a long and happy marriage--as well as a long and happy life--is the Guy we make our vows to in marriage, the Milta, the Manifestation of God. The Milta, Who is God actually, is BECOMING the Manifestation of God, and you want to be a part of that process. I recognize that in our marriage my wife and I became joined in THAT world, the world wherein the Milta is making us into Him. Joined not just to each other, but joined in our world becoming that world.
Looking at us, or at least at me, you would think, "I do not see a lot of progress in your becoming like God, if that process is what is truly underway. It looks like it could take an eternity." Well, what do you think eternity is FOR? "He (God/the Milta) has placed Eternity (the development of Himself) in the hearts of men" (Ecclesiastes 3:11, parentheses mine).
The Milta is the work God is doing in this world, in this universe, in all universes. We just need to co-operate with Him, with His will, with His becoming. God's will is number one. The core of this is MENTAL: think positively, lovingly, nobly, caringly, humbly, in submission, with faith, integrity, fidelity, &c. For God is imagining all of this; we are to do Him, for we also are to be His Manifestation. He manifests as multitudes of people, of minds in harmony. It is MENTAL--His mind, into this world.
The marriage ceremony performed today in this world touches that world. There are links established--the two become one, not just between the man and the woman, but between this world and that world--if you will take it. That world is to us tiny, like a seed inside us. There was a Garden in Eden LIKE the place the seed of the Milta is in us. God placed it in a special, perfect man to follow His will and to become His Milta. Yes, not following God's will messed that up, but JESUS' REDEMPTION OF US PUT US BACK THERE AGAIN. Being back there--recognizing that you are--is the secret of a long and happy marriage.
In other words, the secret of a long and happy marriage is the Guy, the Milta, the Manifestation of God you make your vows to. Keep Him in your world, and your world in His world, every day.